Wednesday, February 19, 2014

New New Job

Bear just switched jobs to working at Midwest Academy. It's a therapeutic boarding school for troubled teens. Which is exactly what Bear wanted to be all along. He works 16-18 hour shifts straight, but then has whole days off in between so that we can go have fun during the week, not just on the weekends. But yes, this means that his schedule is different every week and he'll have to work Saturday and Sundays sometimes. Bear was really unhappy with his sales job and the pay is about the same. It's a little frustrating that we didn't start with this job, but sometimes you have to go down one road to realize that it's the wrong one. Like Jeffrey R. Holland talks about in this Mormon Message:

It's only his second day of work, but it will be interesting to see where this takes us. I keep getting asked if we plan to stay in the area, and I guess we haven't thought about it deeply yet. The biggest goal was to finish college after we got married, and we're taking things one step at a time. We've lived so many places just since we've gotten married, and both of us moved a lot growing up. So I know that we could learn to live anywhere. One thing I do know for certain...I miss Virginia. I think the middle East Coast is my favorite.

Wednesday, February 05, 2014

iPhone Photo Update

Someday, I'll get a real camera.
This was still in VA. Big Bear and Little Bear watching TV together.
Meeting Santa for the second time. Last time he was 2 weeks old.
Santa Baby.
He loves baseball caps.
Christmas Morning with his new blue moccs and car.
Despicable Me 2!
Grandpa and Lachlan have matching grey sweaters! (bought at different times)
Happy New Year!
Grandpa's headphones
Playing with blocks.
How Lachlan puts on sunglasses.
Lachlan had a low-grade fever. Probably teething-related.

Tuesday, February 04, 2014

Twin Facts

Some facts about twins:

  • It's more likely that your morning sickness will be worse.
  • More than 50% of twins are born preterm (before 37 weeks).
  • With a single baby, the average delivery is at 40 weeks, with twins it's at 35 weeks.
  • A single baby's average birth weight is 7 lbs, twins are 5.5 lbs on average.
  • You're twice as likely to get preeclampsia with twins
  • You're more likely to have gestational diabetes with a twin pregnancy.
  • One twin can be much smaller than the other because of placenta problems or because of twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome (when identical twins share a placenta and the twins pass blood between each other, making it uneven).
  • It's healthy to gain 25-35 lbs with a singleton pregnancy, but with twins 37-54 lbs is healthy. I need to be gaining 1 lb per week in the first half of pregnancy, and more than 1 lb per week in the second half. Yikes.
  • Because it's less likely for both twins to be head-down, C-section births are much more common with twins.
Now do you know why I'm a little stressed out?

Credit: Your Pregnancy and Childbirth: Month to Month, Fifth Edition

Tuesday, January 14, 2014

The Real Adult Life

Bear started his training in DeKalb on Monday. He left Sunday afternoon and will be back late Friday night. He says the training is intense because they squished 6 days worth of stuff into 5 days. Bear is literally busy all day and we get to talk late at night when he's finally back to the hotel. Man, there are perks to having a post-college, full-time adult job, but there are cons too. I can't imagine how lonely I would be without my parents and siblings right now. Okay, enough with the whining!

One of the great things about living in Nauvoo is the temple is RIGHT there. It was really hard to go to the temple in Virginia (especially with little kids). With the temple being 3.5 hours away, we either had to leave Lachlan with somebody ALL day, or bring a babysitter with us - which was hard to do on Ward/Stake temple day when everyone else wants to go to the Temple too. Now I just need to make sure I don't take it for granted.

I admit, it has been hard for me to get used to being a stay-at-home mom. I'm not dying to go back to school by any means, and I'm actually still pretty burnt out. When people ask me how I did it, I honestly don't know. I'm not a super woman. All I know is that I finished in the nick of time too - I seriously would have had to drop out with the twins. And although I hated having two very time-consuming things that needed my attention - motherhood and school (and they both always seemed to need attention at the same time), now I feel a little useless. I know how important motherhood is, and I'm glad I can give all of my attention to Lachlan now. And I know I need to stay home for all three kids soon. But I can't help but feel like half of my identity (a student) was taken away. Now, I'm just a mom. Real adult life starts now. After my family leaves for Korea, I won't have much socializing or adult conversation. The whole time that I've been married, I've been a student. First, I was a student. Then a student and wife. Then a student and mother. Now, just a mother. I have to keep readjusting my identity every year or so. So I know I'll get used to it eventually, but with non-stop school since I was a little girl, this is going to take some time to adjust to.

I DID NOT like the latest Downton Abbey episode. I know it wasn't graphic, and Julian Fellowes has his excuses "“The whole point of the way we do things on Downton is we don’t do them gratuitously. We are interested in exploring the resultant emotions and the effect these things have on people.” But at what point is he going to stop? He has to keep taking it up a notch. What point is too much?

The weather has warmed up in Nauvoo and our kitty survived. I'm kick-starting my Mary Kay business again and trying to reorganize everything.